| Subject | From | Date |
| NLP and Sport | Keith W Hawkins | 20 Feb 2007 04:16 |
| Scared to go out | Rose | 19 Feb 2007 10:27 |
| NLP effects | krishna | 11 Feb 2007 02:31 |
| NLP coaching | Jules Burdett | 09 Feb 2007 09:21 |
| NLP Time Line east west culture differences | Sheila Browning | 31 Jan 2007 04:23 |
| Father's peace and healed family relationships | Joyce | 19 Jan 2007 07:42 |
| Do i have social Phobia?? | Jane | 17 Jan 2007 06:05 |
| Noise Phobia | Trica | 16 Jan 2007 10:06 |
| NLP MASTER PRACTITIONER | Ahmed El Aawar | 11 Jan 2007 11:55 |
| modeling knowledge | Clemens | 08 Jan 2007 10:42 |
| Do i have social Phobia?? — Jane — Wednesday, January 17, 2007 |
For the past couple of years i seem to get anxious when around lots of people, im okay when walking around a busy street but its when im in a room of people i know, for example when i am at my boyfriends parents house and all the famly are there i seem to panick! and if anybody fires a question at me i sometimes have a feeling of dread in my stomach and have difficulty answering them maybe stutter!!! its awful!! and its worse at work if im in a meeting!! i sit there in a panick and if im asked a question its happens again!! i sit there waiting in a hot sweat feeling very nervous!!! im quite a confident person so why am i like this?? plus i cant look some people in the eye and get really nervous and have to look away when speaking!! im currently on maternity leave from work but back next month but already i get a feeling of dread going back! especially in meetings!!! thankyou & hope you can advise me as i think im wierd!! Jane XX |
| Sue's Answer |
Dear Jane well you are no weirder than most of the world’s population. I remember a time when I would be terrified of going to a meeting. I still prefer to be on my own than with a group of people but it is now a choice and not a compulsion... events often seemingly meaningless at the time can trigger a reaction within us that our conscious mind cannot explain... our beliefs are based on irrational emotions and not facts...what you might do is to remember and imagine those times when you are confident and become increasingly aware of what is different in your thinking and physiology then compared to the times when you feel lacking in confidence. There will be differences in what you see, hear and feel internally and in what you might be saying to yourself that affects how you are in those situations. Once you know the differences you can begin to do what you do in the confident times at other times when you want but don’t automatically have that confidence. There is more that you can do but you might make a start with that and explore what you learn... Very sincerely, |